How To Attract, Seduce, Meet and ‘Pick-Up’ Women

All right, the final piece of this puzzle, and another important thing to consider.  It doesn’t matter how comfortable you are with yourself and the girl if you’re in a place or situation that makes you uncomfortable.  If you can at all, get you and the girl into a place or situation that is comfortable to you both, or at least isn’t directly UNcomfortable.  If you’re a sort of person who’s more relaxed in a quiet atmosphere, you probably wouldn’t want to do most of your meeting people in a loud, chaotic club.  If there’s a slightly quieter place in the very near vicinity (the same building, perhaps by the door or bar), you may want to suggest moving over there so that you can actually hear each other talk.  If, on the other hand, you do well in such an atmosphere, you could stay right there and feel right at home.

It’s also generally more comfortable to be talking to someone one-on-one, rather than trying to single her out of a group of friends…however, it can prove difficult to pull her away from the friends, as the “safety in numbers” attitude tends to keep them stuck pretty close together.  You won’t always be able to get into a perfectly comfortable situation, but sometimes you need to bite the bullet and do whatever you can to be at ease in the situation you’re in.

That’s the key: be at ease.  It’s the whole reason I’m trying to teach you to be comfortable.  Comfort = more at ease.  More at ease = smoother, less uptight, more likely to be at your best.  When you’re relaxed and not all wired up about things, a bit of confidence shows out and you become significantly more appealing.  Just think about it…if you were a badass guitar player, would you be more comfortable, relaxed, and confident if you were holding a guitar or if you were holding a trombone?  Being in a familiar or comfortable situation gives you a higher chance of success in whatever you do.

So until next time, keep checking back in for updates, and I hope these tips work for you.