How To Attract, Seduce, Meet and ‘Pick-Up’ Women

Once you’ve become comfortable with yourself, the next step is to become comfortable with the girl you’re after.  You can be as confident as you want with yourself, but if you’re not comfortable with HER, you’ll still crash.  Being unsure of how to approach a particular girl can cause fatal stumbling and mess you up big time…

So how to avoid?  Become as comfortable with her as you are with yourself!  Pretty much what you do is about the same as the first part of becoming comfortable with yourself.  Look at her, assess her, and come up with a few things that you like about her.  Obviously stay away from the “shallow” intrigues, such as how big her rack is or how killer her ass is. 

These positive traits you’re noticing here are good conversation topics.  By taking the time to really look, and get the “whole picture” rather than just staring at her chest or rear, you already get a point or two.  By taking real note and noticing things that she’s likely done some work on to get them to that point, you’re accomplishing even more.  I’m a family guy, so I’ve spent enough time with my mother that I know how much work it takes for a woman to do her hair…and it’s not just wasted time.  It actually takes that long.  With all that’s involved in getting it to “look good,” a little appreciation goes a long way.

So yes, find a few things to appreciate about her, before you ever approach her.  It shouldn’t be that hard…I mean, if you’re planning to approach her at all, there must be something attractive about her…unless you’re just going by her cup size and she could be wearing a bag over her head for all you notice…and deciding who you’re going to approach in that manner will earn you an front-seat ticket to your own night alone, masturbating in your room…again.

Another part of this assessment is taking note of any little imperfections that you don’t particularly care for, and coming to terms with them, also much like your own self-evaluations.  Most girls aren’t perfect, and chances are that your first attempts at approaching women won’t be the knockout babes of your dreams…one needs a bit of experience before he attempts to hook any FFFs.

The point is to recognize things that could inhibit your interest, and realize that they’re not that big a deal.  This is what I mean by “come to terms with.”  Identify, accept, and put aside.  A girl is a complete package.  If you’re going to approach the girl, you have to like her for all she is.  I’m not saying be GLAD she’s one dress size over your preference, just accept how that’s a part of her, and how it means little to nothing in the grand scheme of things…

The challenge is this: you don’t have time to sit and stare at her like you do with a mirror at home…this assessment has to be done fairly quickly, or she’ll wonder why that creepy loser in the corner keeps watching her.  You should get to where a simple up-down can give you the basic info you need to reach your conclusionary decision of whether or not to approach.  This will take practice.  Don’t expect to go “instant-assessement” your first time you try this.  It’ll take a few times to train yourself to notice things at a glance.  Generally the first things you see aren’t the ones you want to bring up in a conversation, simply owing to male nature that the first things you see usually have nipples.

So yeah, step two is to become comfortable with the girl in question.  Once you’ve accepted the basic things that make her who and what she is, you’ll have less chance of stumbling, and the positive little things you noticed will make good compliments to work into conversation.