How To Attract, Seduce, Meet and ‘Pick-Up’ Women

First impressions decide a lot of where things will go in a relationship, and obviously, first impressions are based on what a person first sees…so for this, you’ll want to make yourself look as good as possible to women.  One approach is to “tank out” and plow on the muscle mass.  This guy here, The Muscly Jerk, has an awesome program that can turn the scrawniest little wuss into a badass chick magnet with cannons for arms.  He’s got a pretty entertaining attitude, and his product looks to be pretty worthwhile.

Another popular e-book out there, Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle, looks like an amazing program that actually works to help you lose unwanted pounds and replace them with lean, sturdy muscle.  It’s one of the biggest products for this sort of thing out there, and if you’re interested in getting rid of your fat and putting on your muscle, this product could be worth taking a look at.

And after doing a little delving, I found this program as well, The Truth About Muscle Gain.  Built by a former highschool beanpole who decided to turn his life around, it tells you how to ACTUALLY put on muscle, contrary to the plethora of BS information that assaults you wherever you look.  After wasting months of his life and thousands of dollars of his money, and choking down entirely too many disgusting weight gain drinks, he finally figured out the secret that’s helped him and his “students” for years now.  If you’re interested in working on your physique using techniques that actually work, take a look at his site.

All right, the final piece of this puzzle, and another important thing to consider.  It doesn’t matter how comfortable you are with yourself and the girl if you’re in a place or situation that makes you uncomfortable.  If you can at all, get you and the girl into a place or situation that is comfortable to you both, or at least isn’t directly UNcomfortable.  If you’re a sort of person who’s more relaxed in a quiet atmosphere, you probably wouldn’t want to do most of your meeting people in a loud, chaotic club.  If there’s a slightly quieter place in the very near vicinity (the same building, perhaps by the door or bar), you may want to suggest moving over there so that you can actually hear each other talk.  If, on the other hand, you do well in such an atmosphere, you could stay right there and feel right at home.

It’s also generally more comfortable to be talking to someone one-on-one, rather than trying to single her out of a group of friends…however, it can prove difficult to pull her away from the friends, as the “safety in numbers” attitude tends to keep them stuck pretty close together.  You won’t always be able to get into a perfectly comfortable situation, but sometimes you need to bite the bullet and do whatever you can to be at ease in the situation you’re in.

That’s the key: be at ease.  It’s the whole reason I’m trying to teach you to be comfortable.  Comfort = more at ease.  More at ease = smoother, less uptight, more likely to be at your best.  When you’re relaxed and not all wired up about things, a bit of confidence shows out and you become significantly more appealing.  Just think about it…if you were a badass guitar player, would you be more comfortable, relaxed, and confident if you were holding a guitar or if you were holding a trombone?  Being in a familiar or comfortable situation gives you a higher chance of success in whatever you do.

So until next time, keep checking back in for updates, and I hope these tips work for you.

Once you’ve become comfortable with yourself, the next step is to become comfortable with the girl you’re after.  You can be as confident as you want with yourself, but if you’re not comfortable with HER, you’ll still crash.  Being unsure of how to approach a particular girl can cause fatal stumbling and mess you up big time…

So how to avoid?  Become as comfortable with her as you are with yourself!  Pretty much what you do is about the same as the first part of becoming comfortable with yourself.  Look at her, assess her, and come up with a few things that you like about her.  Obviously stay away from the “shallow” intrigues, such as how big her rack is or how killer her ass is. 

These positive traits you’re noticing here are good conversation topics.  By taking the time to really look, and get the “whole picture” rather than just staring at her chest or rear, you already get a point or two.  By taking real note and noticing things that she’s likely done some work on to get them to that point, you’re accomplishing even more.  I’m a family guy, so I’ve spent enough time with my mother that I know how much work it takes for a woman to do her hair…and it’s not just wasted time.  It actually takes that long.  With all that’s involved in getting it to “look good,” a little appreciation goes a long way.

So yes, find a few things to appreciate about her, before you ever approach her.  It shouldn’t be that hard…I mean, if you’re planning to approach her at all, there must be something attractive about her…unless you’re just going by her cup size and she could be wearing a bag over her head for all you notice…and deciding who you’re going to approach in that manner will earn you an front-seat ticket to your own night alone, masturbating in your room…again.

Another part of this assessment is taking note of any little imperfections that you don’t particularly care for, and coming to terms with them, also much like your own self-evaluations.  Most girls aren’t perfect, and chances are that your first attempts at approaching women won’t be the knockout babes of your dreams…one needs a bit of experience before he attempts to hook any FFFs.

The point is to recognize things that could inhibit your interest, and realize that they’re not that big a deal.  This is what I mean by “come to terms with.”  Identify, accept, and put aside.  A girl is a complete package.  If you’re going to approach the girl, you have to like her for all she is.  I’m not saying be GLAD she’s one dress size over your preference, just accept how that’s a part of her, and how it means little to nothing in the grand scheme of things…

The challenge is this: you don’t have time to sit and stare at her like you do with a mirror at home…this assessment has to be done fairly quickly, or she’ll wonder why that creepy loser in the corner keeps watching her.  You should get to where a simple up-down can give you the basic info you need to reach your conclusionary decision of whether or not to approach.  This will take practice.  Don’t expect to go “instant-assessement” your first time you try this.  It’ll take a few times to train yourself to notice things at a glance.  Generally the first things you see aren’t the ones you want to bring up in a conversation, simply owing to male nature that the first things you see usually have nipples.

So yeah, step two is to become comfortable with the girl in question.  Once you’ve accepted the basic things that make her who and what she is, you’ll have less chance of stumbling, and the positive little things you noticed will make good compliments to work into conversation.

Believe it or not, the most critical part of your wardrobe is your footwear.  We all know how much importance women place on their own shoes…well, same is placed on YOURS.  I know it’s not fair, that men should not be expected to own as many pairs of shoes as their girlfriends, but sometimes it may be necessary…

What you put on your feet demonstrates to a woman your maturity, ability to take care of things, and dedication.  If you’re wearing nice shoes that match your outfit, are clean, and are well-taken care-of, you’ll do better than with the ratty pair of sneakers you throw on to mow the lawn.

Now, I’m not talking about dress shoes to a club, but women like it if you wear things that are a bit more mature than a pair of basketball shoes or sandals…sneakers are acceptable, they just have to be nice!  Keep em clean, keep em in one piece, and make sure they go with what you’re wearing.  If you have a fair amount of variety in your wardrobe, this means you could feasibly have way more shoes than a man would prefer, but it does help out your chances big time.

This means shoe-shopping fairly regularly…which is a good thing and a bad thing.  Good side: you get to go shoe-shopping with your girl.  Bad side: you have to go shoe-shopping with your girl.  It’s all how you look at it, but how SHE looks at it is the most important.  She wants your shoes nice, clean, and appropriate, and in a way they’re more important than the entire rest of the outfit, although you KNOW they’re looking at that, too.

So yeah, if you want to “step up” your game, you’ve gotta look the part, and it all starts with and ends at the shoes.

This is a nice little list I snagged off of Seductioninsider.com.    It relates to the responses of a group of women surveyed relating to attraction and dancing. 

TEN QUALITIES WOMEN LOOK FOR IN A MAN! (On and off the dance floor)

1. Good Leader on the dance floor who stays on the music.

2. Stable career, financial security.

3. Confident, self assured in the bedroom.

4. Direct eye contact; confident in public.

5. Neat, clean appearance and well groomed.

6. Sense of humor, quick-witted, intelligent.

7. Well-mannered i.e.; opens the door, introduces you to his friends, good table manners etc.

8. Physically fit, keeping weight under control.

9. Interested in what you have to say, a good listener.

10.Nice looking.

Nice how “nice looking” is at the bottom of the list, eh?  That’s because it’s only a tiny part of what draws women’s attention…it doesn’t hurt if the package is nice, but the pudding is what’s important.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a natural stud…you don’t have to look like you popped off the screen of a Hollywood movie to get girls.  You DO, however, have to use what you got and look good.  A well-kempt guy will do much better with the ladies than his slobbish twin.  So how do you manage to look good for the girls?

This e-book can tell you how.  I’ve done entirely too much research on the Web (seriously, my personal life is suffering for you guys…you better appreciate it!), and this one keeps popping up here and there.  Apparently it’s been the #1 product of its kind for some time now, so I figured I’d go ahead and throw a link to it in here for you.

Inside “Grooming Secrets for Men”, you’ll find a wealth of tips and tricks for how to keep your body healthy and in the best possible shape.  How to eat, what suppliments to take, how to get rid of acne, how to trim pretty much ANY type of body hair, and so many other tips it’ll make your head explode.  Seriously, I got the impression from the testimonials on the site that it’s a rather lengthy book, and every inch of it is packed with content.

So, methinks this could end up being a quality tool for you guys to get yourselves whipped into shape and looking much more attractive to women than if you just slummed about looking like you just rolled out of bed.

Until next time, blah blah blah.  You know the drill.

Here’s a bit of advice I’d be willing to bet you’ll quickly agree with: you’re going to perform your “game” significantly better if you’re comfortable: comfortable with yourself, comfortable with her, and comfortable with your surroundings.

The next few posts will detail a couple things you can do to get a little more comfortable with each of the above things.

1) Comfortable with yourself: this may seem silly, but look in the mirror once in a while.  Just look at yourself.  If you can manage to do it without feeling too awkward, be naked while you’re doing it, like in front of the full-length bathroom mirror.  Now, it doesn’t matter if you’re ugly, balding, overweight, or any physical problem…find something to compliment yourself on.  It can be your smile, your eyes, a bit of good muscle tone on your forearms…whatever you can see about yourself that appeals to you, something positive.  Every time you do this, find something new to be pleased about.  I advise doing this once every two or three days.

Also, after you find something good about yourself, find something not so good, and make a plan on how to deal with it.  If you’ve got a bit of extra weight around your stomach, figure out a plan to lose some of that weight, or at least come to terms with it.  It’s all about your self-image.  If you’re happy with yourself, then it’ll show and come off as an air of confidence, which is definitely attractive to women, even if you yourself may not be a Brad Pitt.  Attitude creates excellence, my friend, and a positive attitude about yourself can create excellent attraction between you and a woman.

 Just be sure you don’t overdo it…there’s a very solid and defined line between cocky, egotistical asshole guy and self-confident, happy-with-himself guy.  You don’t want to come off as narcissistic and conceited.  That WILL turn a woman off to you.

 So yeah, step one is to become comfortable with yourself.  Once you’ve made yourself aware of your good points, worked on or come to terms with your lesser points, and formed a positive self-image, you’ll display a confidence that will make you much more appealing to just about anyone, and in particular the ladies.

I was reading some articles earlier today, prepping for another post, and I came across one that’s pretty interesting, and a good idea.

It advises for you to read the newspaper to get up on current events and general trivia for smalltalk when you’re chatting with women.  Topics for conversation are one of the big roadblocks in getting to know women, and it’s really a pretty damn good idea.

Reading the newspaper may sound a little boring, but there are always a bunch of little stories and quirky happenings going on in the world, so you could easily come up with all sorts of things to talk about, and sound fairly well-informed and knowledgable while doing it.  Sounding like you know what you’re talking about, and have a clue about what’s going on in the world is a bit impressive to the ladies, and will most likely help your “game” significantly.

 The article can be found on the front page of http://www.sosuave.com/.  The newsletter looks to be free, so perhaps it can be of help to you guys, too.

Until next time, good luck, and of course keep checking in for new updates!

Ok, I’ve already told you not to use them.  However, just for the sake of fun, I’ll give you a few of the funnier ones out there.  For examples on what NOT to say, right?  Right.

I’ll be honest…I originally intended this to be a real Top Ten, but I just can’t rank these over each other to make a real order…they’re just all too good…or bad.  Enjoy, and for the love of all things holy, do NOT use them…

• No, I’m not a cop. What can I get for fifty bucks?
• Would you like to come over to my place later? You can bring some friends because my face seats five.
• Roses are red, violets are blue, I have warts, so will you.
• I’d suck a fart out of your ass and hold it like a bong hit.
• Do you have sex with strangers? Then allow me to introduce myself!
• Hey babe… can you suck a golf ball thru 50 feet of garden hose?
• Forget that! Playing doctor is for kids! Let’s play gynecologist.
• I love every bone in your body - especially mine.
• Have you ever had your belly-button licked? {Yes} From the inside?
• Hey baby, wanna go halves in a bastard?

 Honestly, how desperate can you get?
Well, I hope you learned something from this…some losers will say anything.
Just make sure you’re not one of them.

So until next time, see you later, and keep checking back for updates!